We all have the ability to grow and reach our greatest potentials, all that stands in our way are old wounds--heal those, and be free.
Robert A. Grigore | Owner & Certified EMDR Therapist
I want you to know that I know what it’s like to suffer and to struggle. I know what it’s like to believe that there’s no way out, and the walls are closing in. I know what it’s like to feel overwhelmed, stressed, and to not know how you’re going to handle it. I know what it feels like to be depressed, traumatized, and that you want to hide and to give up.
I also know that “getting better” or “change” can often seem impossible…or at least, seem “really far away...”
I am no stranger to suffering. I was bullied as child, adolescent, and teenager. I was overweight, and I hated myself. Kids used to call me, “Short, fat, with glasses.” I felt alone. I felt worthless. I used to stand in front of my mirror, naked, calling myself names and swearing at myself, hitting myself in disgust. I believed that my ugly body was the reason why nobody liked me—the reason why I was alone. I’ve experienced depression long before I even knew what it was.
In my adulthood, I’ve been through abusive relationships, drug abuse, and anxiety problems. I’ve even thought of suicide before. If you’ve ever been through any of these, you’ll know just how scary these problems can seem.
These patterns kept repeating over, and over, and over again--never letting up. I saw a "talk therapist" for years, and still, I would engage in risky behaviours, never truly loving or accepting myself. I never believed that “I mattered.”
When I first began my career as a Registered Clinical Counsellor, I was an existential talk therapist. I struggled for years trying to help my trauma clients get relief. It was like trying to cut down a 200-year-old redwood tree with a spoon. It took forever, and success seemed daunting. Both my client and I knew we were “in it for the long haul.”
After about two years of talk therapy, I started burning out…I felt hopeless. I knew that my clients were beginning to feel hopeless too. Then I came across EMDR…and it changed my life—and the lives of my clients.
EMDR works faster than talk therapy, and it works on a deeper level. It targets the “roots” of where the problems first began.
Your problems are caused by trauma that you’ve experienced—and how your brain has improperly encoded those traumas into memories. This trauma doesn’t have to be “Earth-shattering” experiences like a car crash, terrorist bombing, or an assault (although it could be).
Think of trauma this way:
Trauma = Overwhelm + Perception of Danger (real or imagined)
Receiving EMDR treatment is probably different than how you may have been counselled before (if this is your first time, that’s cool too!). You don’t just learn how to manage your symptoms, or learn fancy coping skills…with EMDR, you eliminate your symptoms.
EMDR looks weird—there’s no way around that. Your therapist will literally be sitting in front of you, and just off to the side, and waving their hand back and forth in front of your face, or tapping on your hands or knees, or getting you to listen to audio tones. Like magic, you will start to see your distress begin to disappear. Believe it or not, this works. It’s weird, but it works.
You would begin your work in a warm and genuinely accepting environment. You will immediately learn some techniques to master gaining control of stress (this is like “learning to apply the brakes, before we hit the gas”). Don't worry, learning these techniques isn't the "real therapy," this just gets you ready for it.
Then when you’re ready, you'll begin to eliminate the distress in specific memories of your past, present, and any future fears you may have.
Throughout the process, you will feel deeply supported and understood. This process occurs at your pace—not ours.
If you’re committed to trusting that this process will get you the results you need, we can’t wait to co-pilot you on your journey to empowerment and transformation. You can expect results with us.
With care and respect,
Robert A. Grigore, MCP, RCC #12316
EMDRIA-Certified EMDR Therapist
Owner & CEO
Robert A. Grigore, MCP, RCC
EMDRIA-Certified EMDR Therapist
Owner & CEO
Grigore Counselling & Associates
Robert owns and practices within Grigore Counselling & Associates in Vancouver, BC in both an in-person and online format. He holds a Master of Counselling Psychology degree from Adler University. Robert is a Certified EMDR Therapist through the EMDR International Association (EMDRIA), and follows the ethical regulations of the BC Association of Clinical Counsellors. Robert consults with all of his associates in order to ensure that treatment is progressing as smoothly and quickly as possible.
Robert opened Grigore Counselling in 2015, after contracting his services to the BC Society for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse (BCSMSSA) for several years following his successful practicum. Robert knew that the experience of treating these men would be invaluable to his development as a psychotherapist.
It wasn't until he began his training in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), that he found his true calling. Robert discovered that EMDR was the answer that he had envisioned since he was a little boy (before he even knew he wanted to be a therapist). Robert has always loved helping people, and now he does - faster and more deeply than he ever imagined possible!
With his advanced training in EMDR, Robert now facilitates the transformation of individuals in a matter of months, and sometimes weeks. In February 2019, Robert will be offering select fast-tracking packages that free individuals from their issues in just ONE weekend!
Inderjit Aujla, MA, RCC
Grigore Counselling & Associates
Located in Abbotsford & Serving The Fraser Valley (Abbotsford, Chilliwack, Mission, Langely, Maple Ridge, Pit Meadows, and surrounding areas)
Offering EMDR Therapy in English & Punjabi
Inderjit Aujla is a Registered Clinical Counsellor and works with Grigore Counselling as an Associate. She obtained her Master of Arts in Counselling Psychology from City University of Seattle, Vancouver. She is also a member of EMDR Canada and the EMDR International Association (EMDRIA). Inderjit has advanced training in: EMDR & Play Therapy (working with children) and EMDR Therapy with Personality Disorders & Complex Traumatization. She is also trained to work with First Responders. Inderjit is a vivid learner and is committed to ongoing professional development to best support the people she works with.
Inderjit’s passion for counselling stems from her own experiences as a client. She understands how difficult and emotionally challenging it is to walk into a stranger’s office and share your fears that keep on pushing you down in a deep dark hole no matter how hard you try to stay above the surface. Her passion is helping clients find hope, ways to strengthen their relationships, and develop a healthy view of self so they can know themselves as peaceful, complete, whole, and safe.
While in her graduate studies, Inderjit learned briefly about EMDR therapy and became curious about its effectiveness. It was not until she attended the training herself that she truly gained an admiration for this approach. Inderjit learned through her own EMDR therapy that getting to the heart of the matter was much faster than talk therapy alone. She felt no need to walk on egg shells and gained a level of confidence to go about life in more meaningful ways.
Inderjit has had the honor of working with children and families in a helping role with various agencies for the last 20 years. She hopes to continue on this journey as an EMDR therapist assisting children, youth, men, and women to heal from the ruptures in their psychological wellbeing.
Robert believes we ALL need therapy, as we are ALL trauma survivors. Download a free sample of Robert's book today!
EMDR: Real People, With Real Problems, Getting Real Help.
This book is a simple and clear introduction to the incredible treatment called Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing.
EMDR can change your life in way less time, for less money, for real.